Start with an invitation, not a test

A good question gives the other person somewhere interesting to go. It doesn’t require a confession, a perfectly clever answer, or a spreadsheet of their five-year plan.

Try one, answer it yourself, and let the conversation wander. If a question doesn’t land, move on. There are no points to win here.

Seven useful detours

  • Which harmless thing would you like to be weirdly good at?
  • What would your deeply unnecessary personal theme song be?
  • If you opened a tiny museum, what would be in it?
  • Which snack deserves a much more prestigious reputation?
  • What is the least useful thing you know a lot about?
  • Which fictional place would be the worst weekend away?
  • What very small thing has improved your week?

These are original prompts from Dating Gifts, not excerpts from a commercial card deck.

The follow-up is usually better than the opener.

Ask, listen, and forget the list

If they mention a tiny museum full of lost buttons, you don’t need to race to question two. Ask about the buttons. Share your own museum. Enjoy the fact that this conversation is now yours.

Keep personal boundaries comfortable. Nobody owes you a dramatic backstory because a piece of cardboard asked for one.

Prefer a prop?

Conversation cards can be a nice invitation to get off-script. Check the actual deck’s examples and tone before buying.

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